King of Chaos

My children are my biggest blessings and the cost of having them is having to deal with their sperm donor, The King of Chaos (KOC).

In this particular thread I will freely rant and document the dumbassery that the KOC engages in that I will transmute, deflect, and make into literary mockery.

9/19/24

Coparenting with a fully entrenched covert narcissist (CN) is like a boxing match with an invisible opponent. You know they're there but they work in the shadows and vacillate between passivity and aggression. There is no middle ground. There is no consistency. There is no substance. If you put your intuitive feelers on, their energy will feel hollow, empty, and substance-less. It's like a self driving car with no human driver. These individuals, through deep childhood trauma, have lost their basic goodness, and humanity. How they humanize themselves is unhealthily attaching to other humans. Their identity is based on superficiality instead of substance. There's a lot of mental confusion and lack of clarity when in relationship with these types of individuals. You can't put your finger on it, but you know, deep down, that the hollowness is real. My friends, be very careful. Minimally engage and stay grounded. Allow them to self destruct in their narcissistic rage. Rage is the only thing that is consistent about them as they cannot control it or control themselves when in a full blown adult tantrum as they are a starving and depraved child at their core. 

9/10/24

Some people unfortunately are so emotionally stunted that they never grow up into fully functioning and healthy adults. This is not easy to spot especially if coping mechanisms have been to just live as distractedly as possible with little to no focus and purpose.

A prime example is the KOC.

Yesterday Gavin and I were supposed to attend a parent meeting for church which I coordinated last week. Everything was set up nicely and we all knew what to expect.

As I check in with Gavin for pick up he tells me the KOC will take him instead. I said that’s not what I agreed to since I’m the registered and paying parent and he was not invited.

To make a long story short the KOC (through his son) argued to take him to the meeting. When I told the KOC I was going to tell the family therapist that he was taking away my parental right by disallowing me from taking Gavin he finally backed off and “let me.” Hahahaha. What a real m/f’r; it has to take the fact of “losing face and getting in trouble” to get the KOC to do the right thing.

For the record, a simple thing is never a simple thing because total control, and never losing face, no matter the cost, is the thing that is of highest value to people like them. 

Another recent time of a major win against the KOC was this past June 2024. The KOC was going to leave our son completely home alone at his house unsupervised for 5 days until I got wind of it and I had to notify the police. He then quickly and hastily contacted his enablers to babysit his kid that he was happy to leave with them for 5 days. Had I not pushed hard against this dumbassery my child would be victim of child negligence (again.) And, yes KOC has a long documented history of this pattern of behavior in addition to domestic emotional violence of the three of us with two (2) CPS reports filed with the first one filed by our marriage therapist back in 2017. And worse, elder financial abuse and manipulation of my elderly mother from 2022-2023 which incited a police investigation.

The whole modus operandi of the KOC over the years is making sweeping half baked plans and grand gestures so that he, the KOC, looks like “The King” even if he actually is a joke who behaves like a dysregulated, chaotic, and unpredictable Joker.

A Joker who himself is a joke. And not a good or funny one at that.

**mic drop**