Sunday, February 10, 2019

Daddy Lessons: Triple B’s

If I could summarize the most important lesson my Earthly father taught me it would be this:

“Be 🐝Better 🐝Baby 🐝

My dad said and lived out these words until his very last day with us 8 months ago.

I remember whenever I would tell him about someone ruffling my feathers, he would sit back, smoke his cigar, and in a very brut, unapologetic, and frank manner would say, “Millie, you’re better than them. Stop acting like you’re not.

Then in another example, I’m pulling my hair out, stressed out, and overwhelmed and he says nonchalantly in an even tone as smooth as butter, “Millie, get your shit together and things will get better, darling.

"Being Better" was not for the sake of competition and making someone else lose; rather, it was for the sake of transcending all situations that made me feel less than, afraid, ashamed, rejected, dejected, looser-ish, frightened, alone, ugly, messy, etc.

What I loved the most about him was his uncanny ability to simultaneously engage my mind and heart in a way that only a loving father could. Happily, I find myself using these emotional and intellectual tools to troubleshoot myself and life situations I encounter. I'm finding more and more that this type of self awareness is not only rare, but it is also a game changer in finding and maintaining successes in the various arenas we have in life (relationships, business, health, finances, etc.)

For all of this, I am so grateful for all the lessons my Papa has gifted me. I will make sure to do the same ;-)

P.S. To Papa in case you are reading this in Heaven:

(I Love and miss you forever to infinity, Pa! And yes, I will always continue to strive to be better just like you taught us. I will also try not to get cross eyed and red when I get angry and will hold my temper to the best of my abilities. Lastly, I promise to stay off my high horse unless we are going into battle. Peace out!)

Have a charmed and blessed day!